Our Greatest Opportunities

by Davina Fankhauser
President - Fertility Within Reach

Our deepest disappointments can lead to our greatest opportunities.  This is something I came to learn in my experience with infertility.  It’s a difficult concept to grasp when trying to build your family.  I’m fortunate to have recognized the lesson and I have seen this in every aspect of my life since.

Here’s where my belief came from.  My son, my second child, was my tenth pregnancy.  Amongst all the heartache, I learned, the children we raise are the children meant to be in our lives.  That was the lesson I took.

When I was lobbying for legislation in Maine and the bill we hoped would pass failed, there was a different opportunity made available to the residents of the state.  They are able to purchase insurance from outside the state, which had never existed before and allowed couples a chance to build their family.  While the outcome was different than what we hoped, our lives were still greatly improved by the accomplishment and the connections we made along the way.  I am still friends with the women who began that initiative.

Recently, my friend ran for Congress and he did not win.  I’m sad for his state, I’m sad for this country, but I am not sad for him.  He gave absolutely gave it his all, held nothing back, and couldn’t be more appreciative for the experience to run for office.  Since I believe everything happens for a reason, I have no doubt this disappointment will lead to the opportunity that was meant to be.  He is a wonderful human being, has an amazing family and tremendous friends.  He knows, regardless of the election, he is a blessed man.

Here’s where you come in.  Sometimes, when we are trying to advocate for insurance coverage of infertility, it does not result in what we hope for.  But as I and my friends have learned, if you give it your all, if you put everything possible into what you are passionate about, you can live with pride and not regret.  Remember, you don’t have to go it alone.  A campaign isn’t run alone, the connections you make can be lifelong and the experience can be rewarding.  Try not to let the fear of disappointment hold you back.  There is too much to gain.



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Davina Fankhauser

President - Fertility Within Reach

Comments (1)

  • julz


    VERY well said my friend! I couldn’t agree with you more on every point you made! 😉


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